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Five Sex Positions Mistakes

By: Robert D. Thomson

If you want some advice on how to make your love life go with a bang, follow our simple tips for success in bed.

First Sexual Position Error

Trying to make your lover to do something she isn't comfortable with. So, if you've been thinking of copying what you see in porn films, forget it! Start from a more realistic place. Being comfortable for a woman involves two things: first of all, she has to be physically comfortable. That might mean she isn't going to feel too pleased if you ask her to put her ankles behind her ears while you have sex. It might also mean that you have to avoid any sexual position that gives you the deepest penetration, because your penis might bang her cervix and give her some serious discomfort. Second, she has to feel secure. So if you treat her like one of those porn stars, she isn't going to be too pleased either, and you're not likely to be invited back to bed. The things to avoid include: ejaculating over her without her whole-hearted agreement, using rude talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to slap her bottom if she doesn't like this, and generally treating her like a sex object rather than a person.

Second Sexual Position Error

There's an old saying: "A gentleman takes his weight on his arms during sex." If you think this is the best way to behave during sex in the man on top position, did you ever try asking your partner what she wants? A lot of women like to feel the weight of their man on top of them during lovemaking - they say: it makes them feel safe, loved, or that they just like to feel the power of their man in this sex position. Sure, if you're a lot heavier than she is, you may find you squash her, so exercise some judgement, but generally, in the man on top sex position, let her feel your weight!

Third Sexual Position Mistake

Remember great sex is the product of two people's energy, so don't just lie there if she's on top. Remember that you can still move in this sex position, even if your opportunity to thrust is rather restricted. You can thrust your pelvis to match her movements, raise your knees to alter the angle at which your penis enters her vagina, and caress her breasts and clitoris if she's facing you while you have sex. If you've ever had a woman lie under you like a log - without moving - when you were having sex during man on top sex, so in this position, return the favour and move about yourself!

Fourth Sex Position Mistake

Being too aggressive during sex. Sure, some women like a little more male power, either all the time or once in a while, but for a woman, sex tends to be something special and she'd like you to treat it that way too! All of which means not being selfish during sex, not having an orgasm yourself before she's had one, and not respecting her needs during your lovemaking. If you want to show how much of a man you are by being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather than flinging her around the bed. Needless to say, this advice applies whatever sex position you are using!

Fifth Sex Position Mistake

Sticking to the same old sex positions every time you make love. Sure, you don't have to try all the adventurous and challenging positions you can find on the internet, but a bit of variety really can add excitement and passion to your lovemaking life. Even if you're extremely fond of the man on top position, for example, sex in the rear entry or side by side positions will let you enjoy a very different experience, may well get you much more aroused, and will certainly give you both some different sensations!

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